I broke up with my ex a little over a month ago because I realized we were incompatible (I’m sober, he’s a big partier). We dated for 8 months until this came to light, it took time for me to see this difference due to a lot of factors. I know he moves on quickly after breakups and doesn’t like to be single. The thought of him moving on makes me feel pretty bad about myself, and yet I can’t stop going to his IG profile and seeing his follower/following count go up, the views on his most recent video go up. I haven’t broke no contact since we broke up, but I can’t get myself to stop stalking even though I know it’s harmful for me. His profile is public so unfollowing won’t stop me, and blocking is something I can easily undo (and I know I will). What can I do? Anyone else struggling with this?
Last updated on:2026-06-27T13:53:12+05:30
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i used to sit there refreshing my ex’s profile like it was going to give me peace, it never did, just made my chest tighter every time. the numbers, the views, all of it felt like self punishment i couldn’t stop.
I don’t know if I need to mention this, but breaking up with him was hard for me - I loved him and still do. I hate breaking up when you are in love with someone, but you know deep down that they’re not the right person for you even though you so badly want them to be. When most everyrhing else aligns, but this is something you have deeply rooted trauma with and really shouldn’t be taken lightly. I knew I could not ask him to change himself for me, but I really wish he offered to try to reduce his intake. Instead, he merely agreed we were not compatible. And so, now when I have moments of nothing going on, I find myself creeping on his page for no reason other than to hurt myself further.