Why do i still think about her?

I checked to see if she still had me blocked. I’m so done with thinking about her. I want her gone from my mind. I know I have to continue to learn my lesson but the more I think about her the more bitter I become. I want to throw everything to do with her away. I don’t need her and she doesn’t need me obviously. I want to accept that she isn’t the person who I thought she was and that what I did was because I love so hard. I’m done thinking that she will regret her decision. I’m done caring that another man has her love and body. It’s no longer special to me. Honestly I just romanticize it because of loneliness but truthfully speaking I want nothing to do with her anymore. First love or not she is not the girl I fell in love with anymore. I need to grow up with thinking that I have control over this stuff and take control over my own life. I’m leaving her alone for good.

Last updated on:2026-07-06T18:15:27+05:30

Comments (6)

Havingablast
Havingablast 2 mths ago

This sounds so much like my scenario. At the beginning I struggled imagining her getting intimate with another man, but now im at a point where I just wish her well and want to go our separate ways. The girl I was in love with does not exist. The new version of her is grumpy, toxic, and emotionally unavailable. I feel slightly guilty because I have hurt her in the past, but I am now a new man and if she doesn't accept that, I cant let her destroy me.

Geoterry
Geoterry 2 mths ago

it doesn't sound like you failed, it sounds like you're tired.

Kun69
Kun69 2 mths ago

i checked if i was still blocked more times than i want to admit because some part of me hoped something had changed. the day i realized i didn't even WANT them back anymore was the day things finally started shifting

LUVLUV
LUVLUV 2 mths ago

what do you think made you check today? was it missing HER, or was today just one of those lonely days that brought everything back?

KindHearted712
KindHearted712 2 mths ago

it’s so hard to belive they are gone from our lives.All I remember are the good times I spend with her but I feel like I need to focus on remembering all the suffering she put me through and hopefully then I could let her go

FrostJet725
FrostJet725 2 mths ago

It definitely is a process to come to that point where you actually realize you have no other choice but to move on. I am struggling with it myself.