I'm trying to online date again but it is so hard. I have a hard time waiting when people don't text back right away because my ex always texted back right away. so when someone goes a few hours I worry that they don't like me anymore and they're going to Ghost me. I really recently stopped talking to one guy I was chatting with from the dating app because he wasn't interested in moving things forward and I could tell he was just breadcrumbing me. I started to talking to this new guy who's really handsome but he lives in another country. I can't tell if he really likes me or if he just likes talking to me because I live far away and he doesn't have to worry about me. so I have to find the courage to send him a message today and ask him if he's actually interested in moving things forward and talking on the phone and setting a date to me. I'm also very stressed because yesterday he sent me a good morning text message for the first time but didn't send me a good morning text message today. I just miss being in a committed relationship where you don't have to stress so much. if someone doesn't get back to you right away. you're not looking for signs if they're really into you or worrying that they're dating someone else. this is just so exhausting.
Last updated on:2026-07-19T05:02:12+05:30
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i'd ask him where he sees this going, then let his actions answer you. i wasted so much time trying to decode mixed signals instead of believing what people consistently showed me.
dating after heartbreak is exhausting. 😕 has he actually talked about meeting someday, or has it mostly stayed as fun chats without making real plans?
after my breakup i read into EVERY delayed reply because my ex used to answer in minutes too. it took me a while to realize i was reacting to old hurt, not always to the person in front of me.
I wouldnt use dating apps to try and find a relationship, I wouldnt give them too much importance. I would look at it as a way to practice dating again and make new friends. It sounds like you aren't ready to be honest. You will drive yourself insane if you try to read into the thoughts of strangers.
i feel you sooo mutch! i did try dating app too and in a few weeks i stopped. yes i talked to people and even saw one person, we made a new date but i cancelled it bc i just cant. Maybe i realised that i need more time to myself and my own feelings and lots of tile to get back to know ME MYSELF AND I again idk ðŸ˜
exchanging one relationship for another wont fill the void you have if your are comparing other guys with him you aren't over him why the rush to find another relationship? In my case I had some deep seeded trauma that I needed to resolve to build my self confidence up so people would stop steamrolling over me and my boundaries it helped with my codependency on people and relationships , fall in love with yourself and get to know you before allowing someone else to love you.