I have this sense of pride that’s telling me to go try be in another relationship or try to have sex with somebody else to forget about my ex but I know it’s the wrong thing to do. I just can’t understand how she could start another relationship and having sex after what we had. It makes me find her disgusting. But honestly that’s just me judging her because I have no say in who and what she wants. I can’t go back knowing what she did because this would never leave my mind. I will do much better in life if I just never speak to her again. She doesn’t see much of my life considering she has me blocked on multiple platforms and I dont text her phone out of respect for her relationship. I won’t wait for someone who threw me away like trash. It’s hard to get through this without craving another relationship but I know the right thing to do is stay single until I’m in a better place. I also deleted her family’s contacts today and her spotify account so I know that I’m done. I’m truly moving regardless of the emotion I’m feeling right now. I have hope that if she can find love again then I can too. But I noticed that in the last two days that my healing has been more focused on getting even with than healing my self.
Last updated on:2026-07-21T18:04:11+05:30
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i get why your mind keeps going to what she did, but chasing someone new just to numb this will probably leave you feeling emptier. i had to stop making my healing about whether my ex regretted losing me and start making it about getting myself back.
deleting my ex’s family chats and little reminders too, and it hurt because it felt like admitting the chapter was really ending. the urge to prove i was okay was so loud, but i was hurting more than i wanted to admit.
i feel this. can i ask, when you imagine her being with someone else, is the pain more about missing her or more about feeling like what you two had meant less to her
She's the weak one in the situation. She's jumping from one relationship to another. Just remember that.
dont change who you are because you are hurt my ex also started seeing someone it hurt my pride more than anything knowing he moved on so quick but I also remember that while hes fuking her to get over me its just a band aid while im doing the work and kicking any emotions I had for him out the door those people are just scared of being alone and when they come running back it'll be too late people like us dont just jump around from one person to another causing more pain we like to be the best versions of ourselves so we can love fully and deeply without any regrets I think anger is a part of the process so it looks like you are moving in the right direction
I think its normal to have these thoughts, you should be proud that you have isolated them and know that they aren't actually helpful. Also sleeping with someone as revenge or to help you feel better isn't kind to the person who you use to do that, especially if they like you. I used to be the kind of person that would try and number the pain by moving onto the next thing, but it actually never feels that good.