It is difficult not to believe them when you trusted them. Even if you knew you were good for wanting to communicate your needs, now every mistake that you made in the relationship, makes you feel like you were an ungrateful person.
When he broke up with me, he said that I didn't have the right to complain, when he felt like he was making all the effort.
I will not contact him again. He was okay with saying hurtful things, but it hurts knowing that all his anger gave him reasons to believe that I'm bad person. I didn't have the space to stand up for me. I just have to accept everything, even though I hope he will feel guilt and apologize whyyyyyyyy
Last updated on:2026-09-21T21:34:11+05:30
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do you have a friend or a family member you can lean on right now, or even a local support line or counselor you can talk to about all this heavy emotional stuff?
Yes! I have people in my life to talk to, thankss
it sucks so bad right now, but taking away his power to keep painting you as the villain is the first real step to taking your life back.
Yeah... he feels like he won in this imaginary war that he set up. It's so hard to accept it and stop the overthinking
i spent months torturing myself over every little mistake i made, convinced i was the bad guy because my ex dumped all his anger on me and walked away feeling completely justified. it is so exhausting when they rewrite history just so they can sleep at night, but you are not crazy for needing to speak up
You explained it so perfectly. He did exactly that and I hate it so much. Although I realize that it is unacceptable, immature behaviour, I still question why and get sad... These kind of people need to work on themselves
i'm going through a similar thing...we fought because of the miscommunication over each other's needs, and despite everything he had done for me, he didn't communicate enough on what he needs when in stress. i'm with you here, you have done your best too.
Thank you so much, I appreciate it! Yeah, It's hard because I accept his side, despite the fact that I know deep down he wouldn't handle things well and rarely communicated. We'll get through this
I learned, even though it hurts a lot, that from the moment I wake up until I go to bed, it's just me and myself. Be aware of the effort you make. Keep in mind how much love you've been given and what you're capable of. Don't waste time where you're not wanted... even though it's difficult, the pain will go away... just remember, you are worth so much... You give what you give because it's what you are... they waste it because it's what they are. Don't take it personally. Go ahead and wish him the best. Not holding a grudge helps you get over it faster.
Thank you so muchh! Although I will not contact him again and wish him the best haha, it's been a while either way. We did what we could. Sometimes I'm glad I didn't attack him at the end, like he did. We'll eventually get through it and realize our worth.