he broke no contact
I responded to him after he broke no contact and I got my peace back he thought he had ruined my life and I think he liked thinking that he had broken me which he did but I don’t think he ever expected me to get back up from rock bottom and I have.
I got my confidence and I controlled the situation this time and I got my closure and as much as I wanted to be petty and angry I didn’t stoop to that level that he wanted me to.
it’s true that once a narcissist loses there grip they try to make you feel sad I’m glad i escaped his cohesive control I’m glad im finding my own happiness again even if all the memories were fake they were real to me and i can remember those moments for myself and not for him.
take everyday as it comes if you feel sad then feel sad and if you feel happy then smile and nobody can take that away.
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i’m glad you got your peace back. can i ask what shifted for you, like what made you realise you weren’t under his grip anymore?
I’ll be honest it’s taken time probably 5 months of back and forth between arguing and been drawn back in only to argue again. the shift came when i realised that he wasn’t who he said he was he’s cost me my friends he’s cost me so many things and left me at rock bottom. meanwhile he kept all his friends and possessions but i realised today in fact that even though im recovering and even thou Iv lost everything i still have the ability to start again. I still have really bad days and your allowed to have them but i surprised myself today I found myself laughing at something totally random completely out of the blue and i havnt laughed like that since being with him. I think what we need to remember is even thou I allowed myself to be controlled and it’s my fault the constant stalking of social media the why are you following them confrontations and the constant tracking and questioning even stalking in public I realised i survived before him i was strong before him and I can survive without him.
the way you handled it is huge. when i dealt with mine, the only thing that helped was reminding myself that closure is something i give me, not them. keep choosing yourself every day.
when my ex tried coming back just to see if he still had that “power” over me. same narcissistic vibe. it shocked him when i wasn’t that broken girl anymore. proud of you for getting up again
So proud of you! Living well is the best revenge!