I met this girl and thing were perfect for over 2 month. This girl was my first everything. Then randomly one day decides that she wants to break up with me so she can focus on the loss of her grandma. I tell her please not a break up and just a break and she agreed. We both love each other and I hope in time she will heal and come back. I told her id wait for her and if she didn't want it she should tell me. Im so scared that she won't want me back after.
anyways we're in no contact now. Its only day one and my heart aches too much not being able to talk to her about it. How do I keep my mind at bay to stop crying all day.
Last updated on:2026-01-22T09:06:42+05:30
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you say you’re waiting for her, does that feel like hope right now or does it feel like pressure you’re putting on yourself to not fall apart
I said I would wait for her, because she is a really genuine person and want to wait, but I'm an overthinker and a pessimistic so I'm taking it as that her decision is to break up. So I'm focusing on just building me back up and learning how to live by myself again because then I will be ready for either option
remember that constant crying and panic.
My bf left after 2 years and 11 months but his reason was that he is mentally not where he wants to be and he wants to be a better version for me because apparently I don't deserve this awful version of him . he said that he neglected his dreams and he tries to work on it. Tbh I just thinks that fell out of love and couldnt say it to me. he said that he thought hard before he made this decision . but damn this cut me so damn deep 💔.
any advice for me ?
hugs
my first love left during a family loss too and said she needed space. day one of no contact felt like my chest was collapsing. first everything makes it cut SO deep
may I give some unsolicited advice? I truly believe what's meant to be will be. That being said, ot is not fair to you having to "wait". If she really needs the time to grieve, she would say so and give you a timeline or at the very least reassurance that she'll be back. You waiting postpones your healing process for no reason. At the very least she should be able to promise to reconnect.
Exercise releases endorphins that lift your mood. Try that. Take up a new hobby, like pickleball, bowling, billiards, etc. Spend time with friends and family.