what should I do?

when she comes over, does it feel comforting in the moment but heavier once she leaves

for me, moving on didn’t even start until the access stopped. not in a dramatic way, just less contact. otherwise my nervous system stayed confused and hopeful

my ex used to show up constantly too, like nothing had changed. it kept me stuck in this half-healed limbo. i couldn’t grieve properly because she was STILL THERE

if you truly want to move on, stop answering the door.... try to leave the house more often to keep yourself busy, block her. my ex literally lives across the street and I changed my whole routine so I wouldn't think about him because moving isn't an option right now for me. it seems to be working so far

find something you love to do instead like painting coloring going for a walk cooking it will help take your mind off of it

I'm in the weird clinging onto something that may be lost and if your ex still wants to be your friend and be around you this may just extend the hurt you feel for longer as eventually one or both of you will move on. you can probably still be friends but from what I understand you should wait a few months before trying to be close friends again otherwise jealousy but also resentment could rebuild and destroy the friendship before it has a chance to start.

if your ex would literally be homeless otherwise I understand letting them stay but if they want to be around you everyday I'd set the boundary of "we can be together as a couple everyday" or "we can be friends in a couple months"

Well why does she still come around if she's your ex? You need to create some distance if you truly want to move on firstly. And believe me when I say it is not easy at all, It's been 40 days and it's still insufferable but time heals all wounds. It will get easier.

That's a real problem