Why did he promise marriage if he wasn't serious?

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i have this urge to text him and ask him about why he did all this? why did he throw everything away? when i was trying my best to keep it all together, why? instead of fixing, why did he run away? and if he wanted to end everything why did he even promise to marry me?😭
why would he keep talking about marriage almost everyday?
i miss him alot but i know going back would only hurt me, atleast i didn't chase him, i have my dignity intact and i am not willing to lose it, i just miss him all the time

Last updated on:2026-03-14T04:28:03+05:30

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tearrain
tearrain 4 days ago

when he talked about marriage all the time, did it feel genuine in the moment or did a part of you ever feel like he was saying what you wanted to hear?

Desp
Desp 4 days ago

OMG… I am in the same position. I feel pain all over my body.... I don’t know how to move on. I can’t stay anywhere.... he was my home. I can’t understand how it was so easy for him to forget all those plans and dreams.... For me, they were a purpose to live.... I’m so sad.

lightworld
lightworld 4 days ago

i feel the urge you’re talking about. i almost sent that “why did you do this” text a hundred times.

BlazeFox967
BlazeFox967 4 days ago

those urges will go away with time. the mind is still reeling from the hurt he caused, but once its settled down a bit, you will see reaching out again will be more harmful to you after abandonment like that. trust me. keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know you're not alone friend 🧡

Ellen81
Ellen81 4 days ago

My ex was always talking about our future too, and then just discarded me anyway. I made the mistake of asking him why and that I loved him, and was met with complete silence. He doesn't care about you, he was just future faking, like all avoidants do. I'm so sorry you went through this, but you deserve better.

LostmySoul
LostmySoul 4 days ago

my ex used to talk about marriage all the time too, like it was our future set in stone, then he just walked away. that kind of whiplash leaves so many WHYs in your head. i remember missing him like crazy and still refusing to chase. that takes strength.

ivyyycoreee
ivyyycoreee 4 days ago

if i stay intact and hold my pride for awhile, there is still a 2% chance that he'll come back, because silence is power somewhere but i know i am doing it strategically but even if he doesn't miss me even after i have given him enough space to miss me, he better stay where he is, and i must move on, i am hopeful someday i will find a man who won't make empty promises and follow through his words.