Why I keep going back to her who misbehave, bad tone, n then gives me sikent treatment. She always promise me that she won't do she needs me she can't leave me but after 2 days she is a different individual and when I get stuck or question her something she end up forgetting her promises and start to do exactly same what she has been doing for a year. I still keep a hope she will come back which she often does and the cycle reset. I tried to communicate all possible ways but she just don't consider and seems she enjoys the period of silent treatment. I keep coming here and just keep resetting my no contact dates. Any suggestion any way for being strong and not to go back to her?
Last updated on:2026-03-19T13:48:49+05:30
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when she goes silent on you, what does that part feel like in your body, like anxiety, emptiness, or something else?
I feel betrayed because I was very clear ti her that ghosting/silent treatment gives me pain and hurt. And despite knowing thst she continue to do that with me without realizing it breaking the remain ties in a relationship.
the promises, the cold silence, then them coming back like nothing happened. it messes with your head so bad because you start holding onto the version of them that only shows up for a moment. i kept thinking this time would be different too
True it kept me tied. It lured me for her crumbings. I am finding it difficult to stay no contact and goes to her when she comes back.
it takes time but you have to remember it's not you. someone who cannot hear needs to feel. she needs to feel the loss of your love and you need to start feeling love for yourself.
realize she's 'fearful avoidant' and can't be happy with you or without you. That pattern is inside her, has nothng to do with you. but staying with her will make you unhappy.