i’m 16 and my first girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me a week ago. i just found out she’s been talking to another guy for a while and now she’s with him. she told me she hasn’t loved me for months and now she’s reposting things making me look like the bad one. it all hit me out of nowhere just a week ago everything felt perfect and i really thought we had a future.
she wasn’t just my girlfriend she was my best friend and now she’s just gone. everything feels so quiet and empty and i don’t really have anyone to talk to so i’m here because it feels like it’s never going to get better. i can’t even hate her or feel angry i just miss her. i keep checking her reposts and texting her hoping she’ll come back.
i feel constantly on edge like i’m stuck in fight or flight. i can barely eat without feeling sick and my mind won’t stop thinking about her no matter what i do even after getting rid of most reminders. she kept telling me this week there might still be a chance i even wrote her a long letter and sent it and then i find out about this other guy. i don’t get why she led me on like that. i just feel like it’s all my fault like i should’ve done something different or been better and my head just won’t go quiet.
Last updated on:2026-04-10T21:14:44+05:30
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man I’ve been there. I’m there right now. worse. the girl who made me feel this way when I was 16 is the same girl who’s making me feel that way now! we reconnected in our 40s and are breaking up again. it destroys my heart to even say that. but you will get through this you are young and you will learn and grow from this
do you feel like the worst part is missing her, or the way everything ended so suddenly with no real explanation?
i know the urge to text and check is so strong but it kept me stuck for months.
much love brother. it will take a long time before your whole system accepts the new reality. its over. she is with someone else. it sux. the feelig of being discarded by the one you loved is traumatic. but its the truth you have to accept. you cant change the past and you cant bring her back. of course your brain will be stuck obsessing and what iffing. but go No Contact. grief and cry. and fous your fighting energy on constructive things like sports. adjust your antenna on yourself as much as you can. even if it doesnt bring any good feelings for a long while. you will get over this, i promise.
when my first love ended and it felt EXACTLY like this… the shock, the silence after, the constant checking. i couldn’t eat either. it’s not just a breakup, it’s losing your person and your routine all at once