i feel so dumb right now… like painfully dumb thinking about the last 3 years. i was dating this girl for about 2 months. i really liked her a lot. then one day she texted me saying she didn’t think the relationship was for her anymore and that she was rethinking things. i thought i’d handle it maturely so i called her. but that call messed me up. i heard the person i cared about the most tear me down… saying i was below her standards calling me a bum a no life someone who doesn’t go out doesn’t go to school just smokes weed. and i just sat there feeling all the embarrassment hit me at once. people had been trying to tell me stuff like this for years but it never really got through… until it came from her. and that part hurt the most because i would’ve done anything for her. it’s been a week since the breakup. i’ve stopped smoking and i’ve been going around asking for jobs trying to get my life together. i don’t even know if she’d take me back. i texted her a couple days ago it felt like a goodbye but also not really? i don’t even know. i asked her if she ever really loved me she said yes. i asked her to say it if she meant it and she did. i just don’t know anymore… if what i’m doing right now is right or wrong.
Last updated on:2026-04-14T00:13:03+05:30
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do you feel like you want her back, or do you just want to feel like you’re enough again?
the part where you quit smoking and started looking for work… that’s the only thing that actually helped me too. focusing on fixing my own life, not chasing them, because going back just kept me stuck.
, i had someone i loved say things about me that just shattered how i saw myself. that “below her standards” type stuff sticks in your head way longer than the breakup itself, it really messes with you.
If she really loved you, she would fight for you. True love never leaves or hurts you emotionally. If someone is meant for you they will do everything in their power to keep you. Saying it is one thing, but manifesting it into reality is another. Love accepts without judgements. Your true love should accept your flaws and push you to become better not criticize you.
You’re not doing anything wrong you’re learning about yourself and what you’d want.