Hey guys! I’m currently struggling with getting rest. I find myself constantly replaying conversations, and just feeling a huge sense of regret over the way I handled things. I knew it was best to end things, for his sake, but god I wasn’t expecting to feel such regret. I want to reach out on nights like this, but I also know it’s best that I don’t. Does anyone have any advice on things that have helped them calm down at night?
Last updated on:2026-04-15T04:03:03+05:30
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what part keeps replaying the most for you, is it something you said or just the feeling of how it all ended?
nights like that are the worst. yeah lying there replaying every little thing i said, wishing i could go back and do it differently. i knew ending it was right too, but the regret still hit HARD at night
just remember u can't change anything about the past. u can learn from it for future purposes, but don't dwell in regret. I did the same thing, didn't even want to see him on my birthday but then a few weeks later deeply regretted it. Gotta remember WHY in the first place. He had said some means things prior to that, I knew I would be putting on a fake smile on my bday. gotta remember those things. I promise it gets easier, I use a lot of things at night rn including l-theanine, magnesium glycinate, and valerian root and I sleep way more peaceful. nights are by far the worst and waking up first thing gave me bad anxiety first few weeks
for me, i had to give my brain something else to latch onto, like putting on a random podcast or background noise so i wasn’t alone with my thoughts. silence made everything louder.
Hey, I’m really sorry you’re going through this nights can make everything feel so much heavier. It sounds like you made a decision you knew was right, even if your emotions are catching up now. That kind of regret is actually really normal after ending something meaningfull
Something that’s helped me is creating a “night routine” for when the thoughts start looping like journaling everything out of your head, even if it doesn’t make sense, or listening to something calming so your mind has something else to focus on. Deep breathing or grounding exercises can also help slow things down when your thoughts start racing.
Also, when you feel the urge to reach out, it might help to pause and remind yourself why you made that decision in the first place You can care about someone and still know it wasn’t right.
Thank you so much for the advice! I enjoy writing so I’m definitely going to try the journaling.
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