apart of me still hopes he'll come back even though I’m the one who finally told him to let me go, and even though I know—logically—that he was toxic and verbally abusive, that "hope" is still sitting there. It’s hard to admit, especially when you know you’re better off, but I just want to be held and loved right now.
I’m currently navigating a bit of a low point. I’ve had to adjust some of my antidepressants lately, and the silence where our constant texting used to be is loud. He used to take up so much of my headspace and my clock, and now I’m left trying to fill those gaps with better habits and a solid routine.
What makes this sting even more is the isolation. I lost my best friend during that relationship because she couldn't watch the cycle anymore. Now that it’s finally over, I feel like I’m being blamed for the drama rather than supported through the recovery. It’s hard to explain to people that "just leaving" isn't easy when someone is calling from unlisted numbers or finding you on apps you didn't even know had a chat feature or reaching out to you through your own family.
I feel like I lost a lot in this process, but I’m still here. I’m still stable, I’m still showing up for myself, and I’m trying to focus on what I can build now, rather than what is missing.
Has anyone else dealt with the "friendship fallout" because of your romantic relationship? How are you filling your time now that the constant pings have stopped?
Last updated on:2026-04-15T02:43:36+05:30
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thank you for writing such a kind and encouraging post. I love the journal prompt that you sent me. I have written it down as a journal prompt that I can use later. I have been working on building a routine and focusing on myself and my hobbies. thank you for sharing your inspiring story. You're kind words will not be forgotten.
I lost one of my best friends during my relationship. My friend didn't like the way he treated me, and my ex didn't like my friend cause of that. So I kinda chose my ex since I had those rose tinted glasses on, I plan to talk it out it with my friend tho. Wanna tell her that she was right and that I'm sorry I didn't listen to her.
I lost so much during my time with my ex and I didn't realize it until I lost him to.
thank you for sharing your story so I don't feel so alone. please let me know how it goes when you reach out to your friend. I'm still on the fence about if I should reach out and apologize one more time or if I should wait for her to reach out. but do you think I should do?.
keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know youre not alone friend ❤️
thank you for your kind and encouraging works.
you feel like your friend stepped back because they were overwhelmed watching it, or did something happen between you two that still feels unresolved?
I feel like my friend stepped back because they were probably overwhelmed and didn't have the patience to be there for me because they were busy with work and had their own medical challenges. I also think my friend gets frustrated when people don't take their advice and put it into practice. they don't like to give advice or feedback more than once.
i feel this so much, especially that silence after constant texting.
thank you for sharing. so I don't feel so alone.
i stayed way too long with someone who was verbally abusive too and even after i left i still wanted him back, that pull doesn’t just switch off. losing my best friend in the middle of it made it feel even lonelier, like i lost TWO people at once
thank you for sharing your story so I don't feel so alone. it helps to know that I'm not the only person who lost Their romantic partner but also their best friend. It helps to know that I'm not the only survivor of verbal abuse who is struggling to let go of toxic relationship. we will get through this together.
I am so sorry this happened. My best friend definitely took space from me when I was in a toxic relationship.
I'm proud of you for seeing it and getting out of it. when that happened to me it destroyed my self-esteem and I still really love him. I was in contact with him for a long time after that. But through building good routines and putting energy into going out and spending time doing my hobbies and getting involved in community I built community at a scale i never had before and I getting through it really helped me trust how strong I am. I know this is awful to go through and I think there is a real power that can come from having something so painful happen and building yourself back up after.
I journal prompt I had recently was How would it impact you if you believe that you had the power within you to create the kind of relationships you want?
I bet that you can dream for yourself some really honest, loving and beautiful relationships
thank you for writing such a kind and encouraging post. I love the journal prompt that you sent me. I have written it down as a journal prompt that I can use later. I have been working on building a routine and focusing on myself and my hobbies. thank you for sharing your inspiring story. You're kind words will not be forgotten.