My boyfriend just broke up with me via text after a 2-year long-distance relationship. It was a complicated relationship with family disapproval, distance, and financial stress.
The relationship often felt very up and down for me, sometimes really happy, but also emotionally exhausting. We had frequent conflicts that became increasingly painful, where I often ended up over-apologizing while he would lash out.
During our last conflict, he asked for a 10-day break with no calls or messages, which hurt me due to past experiences of the same. I told him I felt like I was being pushed away when he needed space and pulled back in when he didn’t.
The argument escalated, and he blamed me for everything while refusing to take accountability for his part. He said he had given up and was done with the relationship, but later said I was the one who wanted to break up, even though I was trying to keep us together.
I felt very loss and hurt, i didn't know what to do. I kept blaming myself for everything.
Last updated on:2026-04-14T22:14:33+05:30
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when you look back at those fights, do you feel like you were the only one trying to fix things, or was he ever meeting you halfway?
I might be biased because i'm talking from pain. But from what i understand that he is a person who needs time to process his emotion while i'm someone who needs it resolved asap. It create the situation where i felt like i had to fix everything and overapologize but i do remember times where he stepped up to fix things as well.
the only thing that started helping me was stepping back from replaying every argument in my head.
the constant ups and downs where you’re apologizing for everything just to keep the peace. when it ended, i felt like i had somehow caused it all too, even though deep down i knew it wasn’t just me
It's exactly like what i felt. I'm sorry it happens to you as well🥲
I’m so sorry girl we can actually do it I just broke up with the person I loved the most he just broke up with me via texting too and I’m just trying not to kms cuz I lost everything and everyone because of our relationship and I only had him and he new that all of sudden he decided to leave me I have a lil bit of hope we can do it girly
Sounds very toxic. You deserve much better. Focus on your healing and walk towards a brighter future. 💜
your family disapproval?
Our race is different, my family wanted me to marry someone from the same race and there is anothee issues like financial, distance and so on
@SleepyStar and what are you going to do ? I had the same issue ? I was talking to someone and her dad did not wanna me because I was living in another country! at the end the girl found a better option while I was talking to her and her family convinced her to break up with me .
what you are going to do about your family approval ? are you really able to stand for him ? or that is just something you can not ?
also, I think it is maybe good for him to leave . I am sorry to say that . sometimes family welcoming is important.
I think you should choose , him or your family ?
sorry if I am being too much
@Brenley484 This definitely making me hurt more...
We have been in relationship for 2 years, my parents has against this so much but i never stop choosing him
I don't know about your story but for me, i literally book a flight to meet him. i left my home for him (i literally being abused by my family for choosing him but i never stop loving him)
Are you saying he is better to leave because my family didn't welcome him? Leaving the person who love him the way he is because of other people opinion?
Also please remember this, loving someone doesn't always mean you have to sacrifice other people. I love him and i love my family.
@SleepyStar yea I understand, I think some people just wanna find way out . I am sorry. hopefully you will be fine
they're deflecting the fault back to you. please do yourself the benefit and DON'T think about him. he's a clear piece of shit.
Very sorry you're going through this. Believe me: You're not to blame for everything.
I'm so sorry ❤️🫂