i was with my first love for almost two years and when it ended it completely broke me. it happened in december 2024. i’m not fully over it but i’ve come a long way since then.
i tried dating again and it just hasn’t worked out. in february i met someone new and it felt like we clicked right away. we got close fast spent a lot of time together and he opened up to me about his mental health. he kept worrying i’d leave him and i kept trying to reassure him i wouldn’t. i’ve been cheated on before and i’d never put someone through that especially with my family history around it.
there was a moment during intimacy my first time where he said something that really upset me. i told him right away and he broke down apologizing and getting angry at himself saying again how scared he was that i’d leave. i told him to just not say things like that again. but even after that he stayed anxious and kept saying things like i should just “rip the bandage off” during intimacy which didn’t sit right with me.
later on i showed him a tiktok that wasn’t even about him just a random video but he took it really personally. after that he started getting distant. at the same time i was busy with school and work so i wasn’t always on my phone and he’d think i was ignoring him even when i was just out doing normal things. i get anxiety in relationships too but i try not to let it take over.
the day before easter he broke up with me over text saying we didn’t “click” like he thought that i “deserve the world” and that he’s a burden. it hurt because whenever something bothered me i spoke up so we could fix it but he would just apologize without actually changing anything. meanwhile something small like a tiktok seemed to affect him way more.
it hurts because despite the red flags i felt close to him. he spent so much time worrying i’d leave but in the end he’s the one who walked away. now i’m here heartbroken while he seems to be moving on though part of me wonders if he’s actually okay since he struggled a lot when he was alone.
i just feel tired of getting hurt and feeling led on.
Last updated on:2026-04-21T22:14:02+05:30
Comments (3)
you were trying to hold it together for both of you at some point, like you were doing all the emotional work while he just stayed stuck?
the “i’m a burden, you deserve better” line used to hook me too, but i had to learn to take it at face value. when someone keeps crossing your boundaries and just says sorry, that’s the pattern, not the mistake
i dated someone like that too, always scared i’d leave, always apologizing but never really changing. you keep trying to be patient and understanding, and you end up draine