Why does everyone else get closure while i'm left in pain?

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so knowing and seeing everyone get closure or the ex that dumped them still communicate slightly absolutely hurts 🥺🥺🥺. i literally got an email saying bare minimum and no final conversation he won’t even pick up my messages or read my messages i really want to break my 3 days silence asking why but i know he won’t respond this is killing me 😔😔😔

Last updated on:2026-06-27T18:28:22+05:30

Comments (10)

Jimmi
Jimmi 2 hrs ago

i know how strong that urge is to send one more message, but every time i did and got ignored, i felt even worse. keeping my silence became the first thing i did that was actually for ME.

Louiseanne
Louiseanne 1 hr ago

yes exactly why I’m doing it, to be there is no point wasting my time on trying

JunoNote3
JunoNote3 2 hrs ago

i have had that situation too once. it's not easy. some people handle the breakup by shutting themselves completely. it's selfish and raw, but there's nothing the other person can do to change it. if I would re-live that situation, I think I would contact him once and for the last time, saying everything I wanted and then, accept the situation and move on forever

Louiseanne
Louiseanne 1 hr ago

I never got that, i really didn’t

1064love
1064love 6 hrs ago

my ex disappeared without giving me a real conversation too, and i spent months thinking one reply would finally make the pain make sense. it never came, and that silence hurt more than the breakup.

Louiseanne
Louiseanne 4 hrs ago

it sucks it really does

CozySky602
CozySky602 16 hrs ago

aw honey i’m sorry, it sounds like he is immature and you are clearly better than him. i know from experience hearing that doesn’t help at all but it really is something you can take in and use to move on with. this version of himself that he is showing you is clearly how he has always been and if you don’t like how he isn’t replying at the minute then that’s just who he is. i really hope everything gets better for you

poundcaker
poundcaker 16 hrs ago

please don’t contact him. it will hurt you more. I know you want to take it off your chest and you need to know why etc. but I know it will make it worse for you the no reply or even a reply with I don’t know nothing hopeful in it.

Louiseanne
Louiseanne 16 hrs ago

I learned that myself I feel worse afterwards and clearly he doesn’t want a relationship with me because he let me and our four year relationship go so easily

poundcaker
poundcaker 16 hrs ago

@Louiseanne I know exactly how you feel trust me. long relationship left with all the blame. you’re not going to get closure. I’m sorry you have to go through this.