Hi. i broke up with my fiance 2 weeks ago. the little to no communication has been going on for months, even tho i tried and tried. the week/2 weeks before leading up to her 21st birthday, things got out of control. 3-5 times a week coming home at 4 am.
There was no disloyalty, just disrespect when i explained how uncomfortable that made me, because i wasnt there to make sure shes safe, and shes out with people i dont know, drinking, smoking etc. when me being upset was the problem to her, i knew i had to leave.
It has been a rollercoaster since then. but i just recently found out shes already talking to other guys, and has already had sex with one of them.
and that makes me so angry, and just disgusted. Im by no means a perfect man, ill never claim to be. but shes out there painting me as the villian, and doing things like this.
i couldve done some things better, but i put up with so much. Her texting exs in the beginning of the relationship, and even in the middle. Her assaulting me multiple different times. i gave her a home, got her away from her toxic family, the past that haunted her. and now this. And so i have so many different emotions.
Her friend basically explained to me yesterday, after i dropped the rest off her things off at a friends. That she needs to grow up and experience life, which is all good and well, which is what my goals and steps are now.
but is that even a thing after almost 5 years? and for rhe better part healthy and happy. could it actually have came on so suddenly? or is there something im missing
i just want to know if anything im feeling makes sense, or if its valid i guess.
Last updated on:2026-04-27T02:26:03+05:30
Comments (8)
she had already checked out way before the breakup, like this didn’t actually start two weeks ago
Choose yourself, I know it's hard but you have to keep going for you.
i get the anger, i really do
yeah man its confusing and hurtful. one thing ive noticed is my testosterone has shot up like crazy. i feel, unstoppable, and feral at the same time. my libido and sex drive is through the roof. and i dont even know how to handle that because hookups are a weird ideal to me, and she was my only partner in that regard. too much confusing shit
i was with someone who kept making me feel like my reactions were the problem too, even when i was just asking for basic respect.
yeah man its fkn crazy. like i genuinely cant belive this dude
she will realize what she's lost, give her the space with literally no contact and the power will shift over to you. do not contact!
yesterday was my last day of contact. its so hard not to wonder whats going on. almost 5 years together then nothing. and its so hard. shes already trying to replace me, and go find hookups. she was my first love and its genuinely making me crazy. like screw her for doing this to me. but at the same time like i want my baby back. i gotta sit here alone and empty while shes getting fullfilment and shit already from other guys. i hate it. i told her if we do try to reconnect in the future. that if she did have relations with another man, ill never look at her again, and never be around her again. she said we will figure this out, now this.