i was in a 10-year relationship where communication was always our weak spot especially with hard emotions. i’d shut down and avoid things and she struggled to express her needs too so nothing really got resolved it just piled up.
she ended it even though it hurt her because things weren’t working anymore and my depression was starting to affect her. after the breakup she became distant and sometimes speaks about us more negatively which feels confusing but might just be how she’s coping.
at first i blamed myself for everything but with time i see it was a pattern we both played into. i know i could’ve shown up better emotionally but i also know i couldn’t have fixed it on my own.
since then i’ve been working on myself in a real way actually facing my emotions opening up growing in ways i didn’t before. part of me still feels attached and hopes maybe there’s a chance someday but i also know it would take both of us changing.
right now we’re not in contact except for one practical meeting in the future. i’m focusing on my growth even though a part of me still hopes she might notice that change and maybe reconsider.
i just don’t know… is there still hope here or is it time to let go?
Last updated on:2026-05-01T02:12:30+05:30
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im proud if you for spending this time working on yourself. For your future relationships, whether its with her or not, communication should be your strongest point, especially those hard conversations
why bro u r like my ex ..no communication nothing works , your she is like me ... I know her pain ..it's hard she must b waiting for ur return ...ur effort....go search her and ask forgiveness and say I love u ...teach me how to love u ...just open up ,,, express ur love plz ☺️
when you picture her coming back, is it who she is now or the version of her from before everything broke down
I am experiencing something similar, where my husband blamed me for everything and bailed after over a decade together. keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know you're not alone friend ❤️
10 years is a whole life with someone. i had a long relationship where we both avoided the hard stuff too, and by the end it felt like we were strangers living in old memories.