Well I’m in spiral again about whether I should text him or not and the rational voice keeps asking me ”What are you hoping for when you want to text him?” and everytime I have no answer to it. if it’s just me wanting relief of missing him why do I worry of his wellbeing or wonder if he has eaten and is hydrating and taking his meds as he should. this is absolutely ridiculous. I’m confused by my own emotions😭. I wanna know how he’s doing, he doesn’t have me blocked but what if I do text him and his mind goes to “ughhhh why is this annoying dork texting me” Dang it! I don’t know what to do with all these thoughts, perhaps swimming with sharks can help my nervous system. I swear I keep living in a fantasy world. but honestly that’s better than reality even though it’s bad…
Last updated on:2026-06-25T10:33:02+05:30
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I completely understand. I was in this EXACT situation. what I did was call him, I asked how he felt, how home was, what he was up to, and he ended the call because he was leaving somewhere. then he texted me saying I couldn’t respect his need for space. during the call, I noticed he didn’t ask me any questions about how I was. I took that, and the fact hes so okay with no communication, as a CLEAR signal he doesn’t care. so I think my advice is to focus on the facts. he’s not texting you because he doesn’t care. He’s distracting himself and trying to forget. I know this is easier said than done, but block him on everything. hes so okay with distance, because he knows he will always have access to you. if he doesn’t appreciate your presence, he will have to deal with your absence. you have to fill your days with things you like doing, hobbies, spending time with friends, working, ect. if you’re not doing anything to heal, and make yourself feel better, of course you’re going to obsess over texting him and wanting that closeness. as first you will notice, when if you do fill your days you still end up thinking about him. This is normal, but it will slowly fade as you keep going. As soon as you get the urge to text or call, do something to replace that feeling. Go for a walk, listen to music, watch a movie. and GET OUT OF YOUR ROOM. If you stay in your room when you’re upset, and depressed and having urges to text him, then when you enter, you will associate the room with those feelings. What I did was open my windows and curtains, and leave my door open. Doing thins helps me ‘air out the feelings’ so that I can sleep peacefully without feeling all the heaviness from last night or the night before.
i used to convince myself i just wanted to know if he was okay, but if i'm being real, part of me was hoping he'd say something that made the missing him hurt less. i never got that relief when i reached out.