Why am i still waiting for him after our complicated breakup?

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my story with my guy is so complicated, and sad. I love him very much and I have never been as happy as I was with him with anyone else. he is in the spectrum and loved me and loved how nice I was with him but I’m sure he wasn’t In love with me and that created many insecurities. when we last fought, he asked for space so that we could reconnect in the future but he added a big “maybe” and I’m sitting here waiting for him to come back. I have texted him just a few times once to ask for my stuff back, second time to wish him a happy Father’s Day and yesterday about something practical about his credit that I recommend. nothing at all about us getting back together or anything like that. from the times that I have reached he responded once and left me on read on the 2 others. so I have decided that as hard as it is, I need to move on and if he comes back and I’m available then I will consider taking him back which I honestly doubt. we literally broke up over nothing, I tried to apologize and fix it to no avail. he just ignored me and completely exed me out of his life then comes back asking to leave a line of communication open so that I the future we could reconnect. I’m obsessing over him, I keep checking Instagram to see when he was active last and I got a set of tarot cards that I keep asking questions to (ChatGPT gives me the answers) because I can’t go spiraling looking for answers and at least I get some sort of an answer from the tarot. I, point blank, need to stop doing all of this and focus on myself rather than when he’d come back.

Last updated on:2026-06-25T11:33:12+05:30

Comments (6)

deadfly
deadfly 1 hr ago

i spent months waiting for a "maybe" from someone who had already stepped out of my life. the checking, the searching for signs, the hoping he'd come back, it took up so much space in my head.

curlyhairUNi
curlyhairUNi 2 hrs ago

if he texted you tomorrow and wanted to reconnect, would you actually feel excited, or do you think a part of you is just tired of sitting in the uncertainty?

Bettina1103
Bettina1103 1 hr ago

of course I’d be excited to speak with him. I’m still very much in love with him

Bettina1103
Bettina1103 14 hrs ago

kinda hard when he is in the spectrum and he is an avoidant. he will never show he is vulnerable and i know he is not coming back.

saketh
saketh 12 hrs ago

to find people who are just as obsessed as I am please choose yourself we all deserve better trust me don't ever be someone's plan b don't lower yourself keep your standards high someday you will meet someone who would be just as obsessed as you were until then keep fighting

NeonJet796
NeonJet796 16 hrs ago

u were actually chasing him but u didn't realize this, all u can do now is just to disappear completely from his life, when he comes back show him another version of urself, believe that he will be afraid of losing u