i just got out of a 5 year relationship. i know where i went wrong and i always wanted to fix things but my mental health got in the way and i didn’t follow through. she ended it recently and now i’m feeling things i didn’t expect.
what’s confusing me is that part of me already wants to talk to other people. nothing serious just someone to connect with and share how i’m feeling but i feel guilty even thinking that because i really thought i was going to marry her. now that future is just gone and i don’t know if what i’m feeling is wrong.
Last updated on:2026-04-29T00:48:03+05:30
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you’re wanting someone new or just missing having someone there to talk to every day
i let myself talk to people but i stayed real about where i was at. not looking for anything serious, just connection. it helped me feel less alone without pretending i was fully healed.
it’s okay to want to talk to other people, especially if you are getting maybe an outside opinion about your relationship, however we often need to remind ourselves that after a break up we are missing apart of who we are, it almost always feels like there is a hole where our hearts are, wanting to talk to other people in a romantic way is a way to fill that hole we feel, but we need to remember that healing ourselves first is at the top of our lists and that trying to fill that hole with someone else does not allow time to heal your wound
Want to speak is normal. Speak is a good way to heal. But remember you need to heal yourself before love again. Feed people you are confident and tell them your feeling, go out, draw, play music, this is the way to disconnect and find yourself again. You can and need to be happy alone
right after my breakup i caught myself wanting to talk to someone new and felt so guilty for it. like how can my heart still be stuck on them but also reach out at the same time.
five years is a long time and your brain is probably just trying to process everything right now. wanting to talk to someone new doesn't make you a bad person - sometimes we need that outside perspective when everything feels upside down
keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know youre not alone friend ❤️