After two months, we exchanged our stuff and finally had the so called final chat. Got answers and now I feel I understand the situation better. Still feeling hurt. It is the hardest thing, when both of you still have feelings, but the future plans don’t match. We manage this breakup very differently, he is trying to date new people and I am nowhere near that. Still there is nothing to feel angry about, and somehow that is worse than getting over it with hate.
Last updated on:2026-04-29T21:07:43+05:30
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do you feel like getting those answers actually gave you peace, or did it just make the loss feel more real now?
I really think I needed the conversation, needed to sit down together and remember the reasons why this is happening and understanding the way the other person is dealing with it. Somehow I feel both, more at peace but also it feels more real now. But without the chat I would still wonder about the same things and think what if..?
Thank you for your lovely comment! ❤️The chat really helped and now I think I finally my mind is more clear and i have time and place to grieve w/out all the questions. I hope I will have the courage to stay and go trough the feelings now
you know what helped me was letting myself grieve it like something real instead of trying to rush to “be okay” or compare timelines, he moved on fast, i didn’t.
Thank you for this! I’m trying to heal on my own pace. Trying to remember that it was real and it is real even when he is dealing with it differently.
yeah this kind of breakup hits different. i went through one where we still loved each other but just didn’t fit long term, and having no one to blame made it hurt MORE somehow.
Yes! That is how I’m feeling. I still love him but want him to have the life he dreams of the same way he wants me to have everything I want, without compromises🥲
I'm so sorry. this sounds really hard. I'm proud of you that you talked and got clarity. I know it really hurts now. I hope you can stay with the feelings and move through them. At the start of my breakup I felt like I handed things well and took space. For a little we got back in touch but it wasn't the right move. it made everything worse.
I hope you trust yourself to stay with the feelings even if it hurts
ohh my reply went to the wrong place but u can see it there🙏🏼