After two months, we exchanged our stuff and finally had the so called final chat. Got answers and now I feel I understand the situation better. Still feeling hurt. It is the hardest thing, when both of you still have feelings, but the future plans don’t match. We manage this breakup very differently, he is trying to date new people and I am nowhere near that. Still there is nothing to feel angry about, and somehow that is worse than getting over it with hate.
Last updated on:2026-05-24T18:10:59+05:30
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we were together for 3 years, from 2 years we were in long distance, it was going great, he said he love me just before 7 days of breakup, he give reason of breakup that he is not interested in me anymore but i contacted him again and again and beg him and he was still distant and appear cold but last time when we talk he said are you going to come back and i said no and then since 4 days we are in no contact
we both applied to a job together and today the results are out. he got selected, i didn’t. i called him and he didn’t pick up so i left a text saying that he did great and wishing him luck for future. then i blocked him again. after 2-3 hours his younger brother forwarded me a message of him where he thanked me and told me not to be upset about the result and wished me for my future. are we really ending or is there is a chance?
If you both do something together and you were able to put your pride aside and congratulate him yet he starts acting weird to you it means he just needed your motivation to get to the next level and then drop you once he got the reassurance.
so do they actually come back?
yes but the change doesn’t last
i can't seem to get to the level of grief to express the loss of a 10 yr relationship. Its not that I didn't love him. Its not that I don't miss him or feel sad and lonely. I feel indifferent about what he handed to me and let me carry as my own when it was him all along making it obvious he didn't want much to do with me. Is this normal?
it’s
its have been 4weeks now since we broke up,,we have been in a relationship for 6years and with a 3old baby girl,,my wife had gone back to their relatives for about a year and half after some disagreement in our home,,I kept on asking why is she not coming back and I want us to build our future together and she kept on telling me to first build myself and they gonna come back,,I later caught her red-handed been given some money by someone and felt angry and frustrated and I told her that everything has ended and I will burn all her items she left with me she immediately went to block me everywhere even in social media and wonder whether she was ready for something like that or it's what I said pained her
she even blocked my dad's phone
Did you ever notice that most men have to have a women. not long after their wife or friend died. we know more women are available than men so they have more to choose from. most women want to be married, better change of improving their financial status.
Nope. I've been divorced since 1996 and I have supported myself the entire time. Women should never rely on a man to support them!
It's been one year since I got dumped. He got into a relationship right away. I haven't dated at all.
and he will inflict the same pain onto the next bc he hasn't taken the time to heal himself.
@PetroPPDX he was cheating on me with her and now they are in a relationship. I feel nothing but anger towards him. I just want him to get his karma.
@PetroPPDX I agree.
do you feel like getting those answers actually gave you peace, or did it just make the loss feel more real now?
I really think I needed the conversation, needed to sit down together and remember the reasons why this is happening and understanding the way the other person is dealing with it. Somehow I feel both, more at peace but also it feels more real now. But without the chat I would still wonder about the same things and think what if..?
Thank you for your lovely comment! ❤️The chat really helped and now I think I finally my mind is more clear and i have time and place to grieve w/out all the questions. I hope I will have the courage to stay and go trough the feelings now
you know what helped me was letting myself grieve it like something real instead of trying to rush to “be okay” or compare timelines, he moved on fast, i didn’t.
Thank you for this! I’m trying to heal on my own pace. Trying to remember that it was real and it is real even when he is dealing with it differently.
yes
yeah this kind of breakup hits different. i went through one where we still loved each other but just didn’t fit long term, and having no one to blame made it hurt MORE somehow.
Yes! That is how I’m feeling. I still love him but want him to have the life he dreams of the same way he wants me to have everything I want, without compromises🥲
I'm so sorry. this sounds really hard. I'm proud of you that you talked and got clarity. I know it really hurts now. I hope you can stay with the feelings and move through them. At the start of my breakup I felt like I handed things well and took space. For a little we got back in touch but it wasn't the right move. it made everything worse.
I hope you trust yourself to stay with the feelings even if it hurts
ohh my reply went to the wrong place but u can see it there🙏🏼