I've once experienced what it was like to be completely alone for several months and I thought this was some crazy character development, that I can "detach easily". it's been 8 months, 1 relationship and I still think about texting him. Just broke up w my bf yesterday and I instantly had the urge to text my other ex. I still cling to this idea I have of him
Last updated on:2026-04-30T23:45:56+05:30
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learn to stay alone
you miss him or more the version of him you built in your head
i had to stop myself from acting on it and sit with the urge instead, even when it felt SO strong.
i told myself i was “healed” too, then the second something ended i was back thinking about that one ex like nothing changed. it’s like your brain runs to what felt familiar
You said it yourself, _the idea of him_! I know it hurts and makes you feel like you are not moving forward when you still think about him after new relationships, but I’m proud of you for being brave and having new people in ypur life. I don’t know does this help you, but for me ot has been helpful: how special is to have a person you have loved even from a far, that tells you more about your pure heart than anything else.
hey girl! I totally get it, I have been broken up with for around 11 months now and being alone really is hard, all I can say is that I force myself to meet new people and have friends and if no one is available I mostly just bedrot