She broke up with me 2 days ago. My mind was a mess, I couldn’t pinpoint what is the main problem of the relationship at first.
I had dinner, drinks and deep talks with friends and family. Aparently is the pacing of life went different that drift us apart. She focus on her hobby, self growth and freedom, while I am looking for stability, career aspiration.
I have been weirdly quiet for these days, I kept being self conscious, trying to give a bigger picture to the relationship. Trying to logically untangle my thoughts in my mind, it makes me feel better.
- thinking of “What-if”s -> realising that even I did something different, she need to do something differently as well, it is not a one man job
- thinking the good memories/missing her -> it is only a “happy” filter that I put on her. there’s unsolved problem that makes me sad as well. The good times are is just a fracture of the relationship
But the sad part is emotions comes in waves, sometimes I am logically able to process my feelings, however sometimes it will rewind back to the point of just sadness and I need to think of ways to deal with it again. I tried to cry, cause i think i need to. Forcing myself to cry to go straight to emotions that I didn’t notice maybe help. I believe this is what everyone facing during break ups, and to me, is the hardest part of it.
Share me your thoughts or stories if you can, knowing I am not alone in this community gives comfort.
Last updated on:2026-05-11T13:42:08+05:30
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When I ended my relationship three weeks ago, I couldn't cry or feel bad. I was very logical and knew it was for the best. But after a few weeks, the emotional block ended, and all the feelings and tears came. Don't force yourself to feel anything; just let time pass. Don't force yourself to cry; just let your emotions be free. Don't rush things; be patient. Everything will be alright. Spend time with your family and friends, watch a show you like, rest, go to the gym. You'll be fine; you're strong.