hey guys!! this goes with mu last post o made!! it’s officially been 21 days NO contact at all. i’ve been blocked on everything, he even went as for as blocking me on spotify but didn’t bother to block me on facebook just unfriend me so i try not to read too much into it. i’ve been better but i’ve picked up drinking on the weekend with girlfriends. he used to make his ex gf out to be a horrible person to me from the beginning of our relationship. she has started to reach out to me when she heard we broke up and she told me that he has manipulatied her and lied to her the same way he’s done me. but also told me he probably did have more feelings for me than he did her because he was “nicer” to me. i’ve heard that he’s already trying to talk to girls but i think it’s just to force himself to move on. he’s also been telling people i cheated on him!!! which was no where near the truth at all, and hes told some of his family that don’t know the real story that. but, the other day i was at work and he called my uncle and asked if anyone was home that he could come and bring my stuff to that was left in his car. my uncle sau yes my papaw was home, so my ex went over to drop it off. i guess he began to make small talk with my papaw and told him he’s been trying to get his life together and is even going to church but also didn’t ask how i was doing. i’m feelings very grossed out by everything i am hearing now and how he’s handled this as a whole, calling everyone in my family to either come get my things or calling them to tell them he’s coming to drop stuff off is very childish to me especially after living together and creating a trauma bond. but in the back on my mind i still think one day he will realize how much he messed up a woman who did everything she could and gave up so much for him and i think he will try to come back. i miss the old version of him that i had and i think that is such a hard pill to swallow because why is he acting like he doesn’t care?
Last updated on:2026-05-18T23:26:34+05:30
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21 days no contact is HUGE honestly. and yeah, sometimes they act cold because facing the damage they caused would mean facing themselves too.
i agree to this too! it’s been so hard to not reach out to him on anything just to tell him about my day
what’s keeping you attached is hoping the “old him” is still in there somewhere and will come back one day
it’s just hard to let go of that
my ex used to paint all his exes as “crazy” too, then after we broke up i realized he reused the SAME lies and manipulation on me. that realization made me feel sick because i kept mourning a version of him that honestly probably wasn’t real for a long time
YES!!! this is 100% how it is for me rn too
I too am on day 21 and have the same question. mine was a slow fade too that turned into trauma bond... I relate to how you are feeling. it feels so unfair. its not like we opened them wounds. im starting to have so much resentment but then long and crave for him. is that similar to how your feeling at all?
yes!! i too have so much resentment of how he’s treated me towards the end after all i did for him and how he’s acting now. but i do crave just to talk to him because not only was he my boyfriend, he was my bestfriend too. i completely get that!!