If your partner accused you of cheating constantly because you have male friends, call you insecure, say their friends come before you, constantly say that they didn't hurt you and that you hurt yourself, curse you and get disrespectful when they're angry, get mad at you for speaking up about what hurt them
Then a relative for them died. You were there wiping their tears. You tried to be the partner they wanted
And they became worst during grieving. They took their stress out on you while going to their friends for comfort, they started saying hurtful words again etc. You say they need to heal and grow because the treatment from the past and current isn't good. They refused and said they didn't hurt you. Would you breakup with them or would you stay? Would you feel bad for doing so during their grieving? Would you keep getting hurt by them just to be there with them?
Last updated on:2026-05-23T03:52:12+05:30
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i stayed with someone through grief because i thought loving them harder would finally make them treat me softer, but instead i just became their emotional punching bag. i felt guilty even THINKING about leaving because they were hurting
i’d still leave honestly. grief explains why someone is struggling, but it doesn’t suddenly make disrespect okay. i learned that the hard way after spending months shrinking myself trying to “understand” someone who kept hurting me anyway.
I generally find that they accuse you of what they do as deflection. run. dont walk. run
I believe so too
when they say “you hurt yourself” after they curse at you or dismiss your feelings, do you feel like they actually hear your pain at all or are you carrying this whole relationship alone?
I feel like I was carrying it alone considering the fact that they only saw their pain and not mine. Me being there for them and handling all the things they threw at me while I was also battling my own health problems, stuff at home and at work, I thought maybe they'd see and understand but instead all I got was told I didn't care, I was accused, cursed at, got told their friends were their only comfort meanwhile I was their partner..it all shows now that I was never what they wanted