Me and my boyfriend just broke up. He cheated multiple times, and every time I forgave him and gave him another chance. But because of that, I became anxious and possessive. I was constantly scared of getting hurt again.
Whenever I tried to talk about the pain I felt, he would avoid the conversation. Over time, I started checking his phone, wanting to know everything about his activities, his problems, and who he talked to. I even told his mother and sister about the bad things he did.
That made him uncomfortable, and he said I made him lose himself and that everything became too messed up. In the end, he asked to break up.
But I still love him. I don’t want to lose him. I begged him to forgive me and stay with me.
I can’t lose him. i dont want to. What should I do?
Last updated on:2026-05-26T19:07:03+05:30
Comments (12)
i’ve BEEN that anxious version of myself after getting cheated on over and over.
that’s exactly how i feel right now.
i hate the person i became in this relationship, but i know i didn’t become this way for no reason.
i get why you’re blaming yourself right now but honestly, i stopped feeling “crazy” the second i was with someone who didn’t keep hurting me. begging for love from someone who keeps betraying you drained the life out of me too.
you miss the hope that maybe this time he’d finally become the version of him you needed all along?
yes. exactly this.
i think i kept falling in love with his potential more than the reality of how he treated me.
it seems like you need to work on your self worth. you are so much better than this. You need to get used to the idea of not having him in your life. He will never make you happy, he makes you anxious because you cant trust him. How many times does he need to cheat before you stand up for yourself and walk away. Everytime he cheats he is consciously choosing another instead of choosing you. Its time to choose yourself. This kind of relationship never has a happy ending. He has treated you so poorly. Its time to walk away, I know its hard, but if you dont, you are just going to keep getting hurt. Hold your head up high and walk away. You need to refuse to be treated like this
I say this out of love and care. I was in a similar relationship in my early 20s, I kept chasing him because I didnt want to lose him. We ended up living together, until one day he brought a girl over, his new girlfriend. It broke me, but in hindsight I think it was the only way he could get it through my thick head that it was over. I have never allowed cheating since. Complete deal breaker
just Run baby Run ..from such person.He wont bring anything,just pain and relentless chase.Protect ur peace
i want to run away, but i just don’t know how to stop loving him yet.
you should no contact. you go some time without talking to them and obsessing over then then things could possibly get better when your head is a little more clear.
But how am I supposed to do that? Every time I try not to contact him, my chest feels tight and overwhelming, like I have to text him immediately and tell him everything I’m feeling.
@Naliane your inability to hold your emotions together may make you seem weak to him. keeping no contact could help get your emotions in check.