I found out after the breakup that he was talking to other girls while we were together. we were together for 5 years, had a home and pets. I really thought he was my best friend and we were so close, the thought never even crossed my mind that that could be something he would do. it was so ridiculous that I actually found out a few weeks ago, but have been suppressing it until now. now it is all hitting at once and I am so devastated. I feel betrayed and embarrassed. I cant help but think, if he could do it, anyone can. how can I ever trust another man? I will always know they all have it in them. I'm afraid I will never recover from this...
Last updated on:2026-05-27T10:55:45+05:30
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whatever happened keep it in the past.Learn from the experience and next time be careful before falling in love.Let ur ex be in this dirt. You move on and bloom
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i found out after my ex cheated that i had spent YEARS defending someone who was lying to my face the whole time, and the embarrassment honestly hurt almost as much as losing him
i keep thinking about the pets and the home together. did he ever fully admit to what he did or are you carrying the pain while still missing pieces of the truth?
I dont fully know and I never will. occasionally I think about stalking his Instagram and finding out who the girls are, but I am going to keep him blocked for my own peace of mind. ignorance is bliss
i really don’t think your brain is overreacting right now, it’s trying to protect you from ever feeling this blindsided again.
I also found out about the cheating after the relationship had already ended. it felt like a worse blow after an already devastating blow. they are two separate things to process, and in my opinion the betrayal is a lot harder to process because of the psychological disorientation and damage to trust moving forward .. it's been a few months for me since I found out and it has gotten easier, but it's something you will always live with. there will always be scar tissue but you will be okay, I promise <3