we honestly ended things really cordially and on good terms . Even though I was the one broken up with, we were still in contact, and I kept having the urge to check their stuff. So I went ahead and texted her that I felt like it was the right decision to remove and block each other at least for some time. is that toxic or mean or will it make them hate me?
Last updated on:2026-05-29T17:31:12+05:30
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i’ve done this too after a “good” breakup because staying connected was quietly destroying me. every story view and little update kept reopening the wound. blocking them for your own peace isn’t cruel
honestly i think telling her first instead of just disappearing was the kindest way you could’ve handled it. i had to block my ex for almost a year because i kept obsessing over everything they posted and it was making healing impossible.
did she understand why you wanted the block or did she seem hurt by it?
def understood it’s just hard
I don't think it's bad or mean as long as you worded your reasoning to her in a respectful and cordial way, which I assume you did because the breakup happened on good terms. I honestly things that you are completely correct in feeling like you need to take this step because it will create a boundary and help you in healing faster so that you're not constantly curious and constantly satiating that curiousness by looking up what she's doing.
no it isn't bad tbh no contact cuts the loop of checking, hoping, re-opening the wound. It forces your brain to stop treating them like an option and start treating them like the past. That’s why it speeds things up, even if it feels harsh in the moment.