My bbf confessed his feelings for me yesterday and even said he’ll court me. I like him too, but I’m too scared to lose him, because I believe it’s better to be friends so you can keep each other forever than be lovers. I’m also still scared to commit again, because last time, “forever” turned into us becoming strangers — and that person was also my best friend. Our parents have wanted us to be together for a long time, even before we started liking each other. Should I take the risk or lose this chance? We’re still in high school, so I’m scared of what might happen in the future.
Last updated on:2026-06-01T21:00:11+05:30
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i'd probably give it a chance, but slowly. "courting" doesn't have to mean jumping straight into forever.
if there was zero risk of losing the friendship, would you actually want to be with him? because the way you wrote this, it sounds like fear is talking louder than your feelings right now
i dated my best friend in high school and i was terrified of losing the friendship too. what surprised me was that the feelings didn't disappear just because i ignored him, he just sat there between us anyway.
id say make some rules and stipulations about how you guys will return if they relationship doesn't work out. if you can maybe make some kind of agreement beforehand that you could be friends if it doesn't work out.
but also, most things end up not going how we want them. my significant other made a promise to me to be my friend if we broke up. but has blocked all communication from me.
and as someone else said. now that hes made it clear his feelings are more then friendship then you either need to try or you may lose him as a friend..
unfortunately, I don’t think you can stay friends now that he has confessed feelings for you. it will never be the same now so I say give it a go.
take the risk. love is a beautiful thing. if you want to be friends forever, you may regret never taking the risk and he may resent you for the same reason. Listen to "ruin the friendship" by Taylor swift. Without risk, there is no reward