Hey everyone! I'm in a difficult situation right now. If you have been following my several post but most importantly my recent one then you'll see that I'm going through a breakup with a guy who clearly never loved me to begin with, yet he still says he wants us to go no contact until I can travel to his country then we can "restart" the relationship healthier. My issue is that yes he needs to grow but now I'm in a situation with my own mother who wants me out of her house. Now, the price to rent in my country is highhhh and you'd need a roommate. I have nobody to get as a roommate and the guy that my now ex had an issue with is also looking for a place to rent. My now ex thought that me and the guy liked each other even when I kept reassuring him we don't but somehow he still won't trust me. My mother said I need to leave next month and since I don't have the money for the full rent I'm stuck. If me and the guy becomes roommate then I can manage but that means my now ex who is supposedly working on himself to "forgive me for hurting him and for hurting myself" will forever think I'm a cheater or that me and the guy got something going on. Please, idk what to do
Last updated on:2026-06-01T13:09:11+05:30
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i'm curious, if your ex was completely out of the picture and there was no chance of restarting things, would becoming roommates with this guy still feel like the best option for you?
this sounds like way more than a breakup problem right now. i had an ex who kept talking about a future "restart" while i was dealing with real life stuff in the present, and it left me feeling pulled in two directions. housing and stability would be my priority here, especially when the relationship isn't even active anymore
I think you should talk to both exes, and take things one step at a time. Resolve one matter after the other.
I haven’t read your other posts, but very early on in this one you said that he clearly never loved you. Without knowing much about your relationship, I wonder why you would want to restart this relationship or care what he thinks. Honestly, if you have another housing option, it might be best to avoid living with the roommate not because of what your ex might think, but because this doesn’t sound like a healthy situation for you and avoiding all of these people will help you untangle yourself from the mess when you’re ready to do that. But if no other options, live with that guy send don’t worry about what your ex thinks because you deserve a lot more than he’s putting into the relationship anyway. I relate to your story a lot…I too have an ex who doesn’t love me and doesn’t trust me, but I feel a desperate need for him to that has more to do with my own unhealed attachment wounds than anything that is particularly impressive about this man who generally treats me poorly. He too has broken up with me but implanted this seed that we could get back together if I did “better”, put in “more effort”, and all sorts of narcissistic mind games. It’s not about forgiving you or a healthier relationship…it’s about making you feel bad about yourself so you continue to entertain a man who you don’t feel loved or trusted by. I wish you the best and know that you got this ❤️
Well it just so happen that when I brought it to his attention I realised he just won't ever change and he said he's much happier now and that the relationship made him stop believing in genuine love so that's that. I've parted ways with him completely now.