Me and this girl have had ups and downs like I have never seen before, I was and still am stupid whrn it comes to this situation, she has cheated on me 5 times, and my dumbass keeps thinking it will be okay, this time i wanted to make a change, to prove to myself im better than that, that I have worth beyond what she labels me as... and yet, when the night comes i allways think about her, when im alone I miss her, after everything she did, after all that happened i still miss her and i know i shouldnt, i know it s like poison, and yet i cant break that cycle, and now? her birthday is coming up, and my heart aches thinking to not tell her happy birthday, should I try and break the cycle and stop writting her, or should I try it one last time? (i know it seems stupid, but i guess thats what 3 years of a first love does).
Last updated on:2026-06-02T18:13:11+05:30
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when i was in a cycle like this, i had to ask myself whether the message was for them or for me. every "happy birthday" kept me tied to the same door, hoping it would open again.
my first love cheated too, more than once, and every time i swore i was done i still missed him at night. three years doesn't just disappear because someone hurt you
if you texted her and got no reply at all, or just a simple "thanks," would you feel at peace with that, or would it hurt even more?
I say this with love and care but ABSOLUTELY NOT.
If she has cheated on you 5 times, she has no respect for you and does not care about you. You are right, she is poison, dont allow your self worth to rot away. You deserve so much better than this
Aww I feel you. I am the same way, I fold so easily. But especially for that reason I definitely would recommend not breaking the no contact. I know its hard when you really love someone. sending hugs💕
No don’t break NC, she doesn’t deserve to get a birthday message from you.
dont break no contact. it will just start you back off at step zero and you won't feel that much better.
It s sad because i know how easy I can fold... if somehow she writes me during a time i am having a bad day, i would instantly respond... and im so mad that i am this way
@Cristian you arent the only one. I folded a few days ago and it literally put me in an emotional spiral downwards. Do yourself a favor and me, dont do that to yourself.