Why did my boyfriend leave me when i needed him most?

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first week of 2026, I got hit layoff. my first one ever, I hated my job but it still hurt to experience. about a month later, my boyfriend told me was unsure about me and the relationship. he had been feeling this way for a while but never told me because I was going through a lot. I tried to help him figure things out but i felt like i was the only.one trying and he was becoming distant.

Then by the end of March I ended things. it was the hardest things I've ever had to do. but if he wasn't going to choose me, I had to choose myself.

I don't regret it but there's times during this grieving cycle it hots. me that I ended things. I did this to myself. but I try to stick to the facts: he wasn't there during the lowest point in my life (layoff) and he didn't communicate about this sooner.

its June now, its been 2 months, i feel good sometimes but then terrible all of a sudden. does it really get better???

Last updated on:2026-06-05T04:55:11+05:30

Comments (8)

lightstar11
lightstar11 1 wk ago

two months is still so fresh when you've been hit with a layoff and a breakup back to back.

Kiki2026
Kiki2026 7 days ago

yes. I keep forgetting about the layoff at times and I give myself a hard time about moving on

ruschkikov
ruschkikov 1 wk ago

when those terrible moments hit now, do you find yourself missing HIM, or do you miss the version of him you needed during that really hard season of your life

Kiki2026
Kiki2026 7 days ago

its hard to tell. I think i miss who I was with him and how he kept me calm. so maybe the version of him i needed... its like my nervous system wants to peace i of mind he used to bring me

mysticChu
mysticChu 1 wk ago

i ended a relationship with someone i still loved because i was the only one fighting for it, and for months i kept thinking, "well, technically i did this." that guilt faded when i finally accepted i was responding to what they were giving me, not ending something healthy

Kiki2026
Kiki2026 1 wk ago

oh that makes me feel really good. responding to the what they giving. thank you🫶

ZigNod418
ZigNod418 1 wk ago

it does get better. it really does. if he doesn't want you at a low moment, he doesn't deserve you at your best.

Kiki2026
Kiki2026 1 wk ago

right i know this to be true deep down but my heart and mind are a battle sometimes.