I recently found out that the guy I'd been talking to since October 2024 had been secretly hooking up with another girl for months. I know talking sounds like a long time but we both had a lot going on in our lives and we'd agreed to take things slowly. Before he got involved with her we'd already agreed to be exclusive and only see each other.
While we were building what I thought was a serious relationship he was sleeping with her and continuing to see her behind my back from October until March when I finally ended things. By January things between us had become very serious. He was talking about making me his girlfriend once he got through some personal challenges that semester. We spent a wonderful Valentine's Day together opened up to each other emotionally communicated well and eventually admitted we loved each other.
Then came a day that felt like a huge milestone. I met his parents he introduced me as his girl and everything seemed to be moving in the direction we'd both talked about. I felt secure and hopeful about our future.
The very next day I discovered the truth. He had been hooking up with another girl the entire time.
It's been two months since everything fell apart. I feel deeply betrayed hurt and sick when I think about what he did. Yet despite knowing how badly he broke my trust a part of me still wants to go back. I've confronted him multiple times and we've had conversations that I thought would finally give me closure. For a few days afterward I feel okay. Then the doubts return and part of me starts wondering if we could somehow make it work even though logically I know that's probably not the case
Last updated on:2026-06-05T21:52:11+05:30
Comments (4)
when you picture going back to him, are you imagining the guy who introduced you to his parents and talked about a future, or the guy who was lying to you that whole time?
that sucks! the same thing happened with me but I saw videos in him phone of him having sex with these women and it broke me, to my core. it shattered something in me that day, he killed the last little light I had left in me. he hurt me so bad then said I shouldn't have looked in his phone so I hurt myself
that closure wasn't changing my mind, it was realizing i could love someone and still know they weren't safe for me to trust again.
i went back and forth for months after being cheated on, and the worst part was that my heart kept holding onto the version of them i thought i had, not the person they actually turned out to be.