Why i keep breaking no contact and what i've learned

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I clearly broke no contact and will break it again. My mental health is not focused on no contact its focused on trying to see who I will become by just trying to do what I like and just trying to live normally again. I got the answers I wanted and I know my ex doesnt like me anymore. For now, I hope I can become even better than I am rn because I know what I'm worth and I deserve love too. If me becoming the best version of myself brings him back I guess thats a win win.

Last updated on:2026-06-15T17:42:21+05:30

Comments (10)

bronto
bronto a mth ago

i letting my progress belong to ME. once i stopped measuring my healing by whether my ex noticed, i started feeling lighter and more like myself again.

Inotnoya
Inotnoya a mth ago

Thats what I'm doing and I'm kinda happy, I don't care if he sees me healing rn I hope he will see it once I'll be gone 🙏

darkthinker
darkthinker a mth ago

if you knew with absolute certainty he was never coming back, would the things you're working on right now still be the things you'd choose for yourself?

Inotnoya
Inotnoya a mth ago

Yes. What I am working on rn is my own peace I am talking to my friends, I am enjoying time with them and I am enjoying doing things by myself even if its just a little right now.

VoMUA
VoMUA a mth ago

i kept telling myself i was focusing on me, but a small part of me was still hoping my growth would make my ex come back. that hope took a while to loosen its grip, and it hurt more than i expected.

DreamyWay697
DreamyWay697 a mth ago

I cant explain how helpful being in no contact has been. It has allowed me to return to myself which I wouldn't have been able to do if I was in contact with my ex. Everytime I've broken nc, I've had to restart the healing journey and I've realised now how much of a distraction that is to my inner work

Inotnoya
Inotnoya a mth ago

I mean right now I'm not as sad as before because I broke no contact. I'm just worried it's because I still believe he can come back

Louiseanne
Louiseanne a mth ago

honestly I just broke no contact after at four day streak. at least yours responds I get crickets!

Inotnoya
Inotnoya a mth ago

He responded but yeah very late and very dry and cold at first :( Breaking no contact is good sometime...I hope you will be okay girl ❤️

Louiseanne
Louiseanne a mth ago

@Inotnoya I can’t do any more I wanted to give him an amazing life I would of done absolutely anything for him he’d rather stay at his mums unemployed living off her and doing jobs for her. the life he’s had me a promising career absolutely gone. it breaks my heart because I wanted so much for him 😔😔