And chaotic things happened, on his side. He's not my problem anymore. He really cannot stop making a mess of his life. Well, on my side, I'm not looking at him sentimentally anymore
(This is supposed to be Day 45 of NC.)
Last updated on:2026-06-24T03:57:15+05:30
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i know this feeling 😅 my ex popped back up after weeks of silence and for the first time i wasn't excited, i was just tired. realizing their chaos wasn't mine to clean up anymore felt weirdly freeing.
day 45 turning into day 1 on paper doesn't erase what changed inside you. if you're looking at him without that sentimental pull now, that's a HUGE shift.
did you feel anything at all for a second, or was it mostly just relief that his mess wasn't yours anymore?
well, nothing romantically. about being relieved, yes, there's a a very little bit of that, but since i mostly don't care about what he does anymore with his life, I don't feel it as a lot of weight being lifted off me since he had already stopped weighing heavily on me, and i only realized that when we met again. what i'd been holding on to were the memories of our happy times together. I started finally seeing the person i met again as being separate from those memories
Yeah sometimes you gotta let people deal with their own things and fix their own mess. Sorry ...
jokes on him. keep pushing.
keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know you're not alone friend ❤️