Why did he break up with me? navigating emotional intimacy

he broke up with me because he ran out of patience I don't blame him I told him from the beginning I love emotional intimacy and he stopped giving that to me he told me he valued physical affection but it was hard to give that to him when I am upset because I'm used to not being touched our relationship lasted 5 months I love this man he was everything I wanted in a partner but I have a avoidant style and I was trying to work on it but he told me he was always scared of losing his gf a.k.a me and I felt terrible I tried to reach out to him for help but he always said he didn't know the day before yesterday he told me he wanted to think about being with me and would tell me in the morning so when the morning came I called my friend and he wanted to listen to how my bf felt my boyfriend told him but was kinda upset he told me he was separating because he was hurting about alway losing me at first I felt hurt but the inunstood I then told him I was open to things end but he started crying and telling me it hurts and he wanted me to be mean to him and I could later that day after I was done hang out with friends before it got to that point he made to clear he was regretting it and wanted me in his life but I told him maybe I'm not good for him I then ubered myself to his house and he begged me not to cause I was trying to give him his things from my house he was cry begging my to stay and he got a little aggressive but apologized I got an Uber back home but cancelled it because I was thinking unrealistically and was thinking about getting back together but I decided to try and walk home but my phone was dying and I couldn't find his place so it took me like an hour to find it I was kinda hurt cause he didn't look for me and I was scared and lost he then seemed irritated and said he was taking me home and he asked if he could come up and I said no but once again I was thinking unrealistically and if he would of came to my door I would of stayed but he said he would stay in the car and I grabbed the plushie he got me for my birthday put it in his car and went in my apartment I felt so disappointed all of this started because we have been having conflict for three weeks and I just told him he hurted my feelings he would put his gaming before me but when I wanted emotional intimacy he didn't do it but he was will to have sex and it hurted I didn't even enjoy it he would constantly tell me I hurt him too etc when I felt it wasn't fair because I was telling him he hurt me in that moment but he was telling me I hurt him before and now etc I love and want him so much but I don't think he actually wants me I think he's just lonely I'm sorry if I seemed crazy I'm in therapy but I wanted to be honest

Last updated on:2026-07-26T18:48:13+05:30