im so stupid, I think we broke up yesterday but we are still trying to fix it. I just dont understand how he could do that to me. we were planning our future together and he told me that he cannot talk with me bc he chose the army. and yeah I can wait for him 1 or 2 years bc I wanna finish my studies and them live with him but then he changed his mind and he told me that he cant get out for 10 years or 15 years. tonight he texted to me that he miss me so bad and that he couldnt sleep well without me. I was so nervous but i texted to him that I wanna talk with him. he told me that he gonna call to me im few minutes and now im waiting for 2 hours. he was so weird lately. I was on trip with my family and he asked me if he may call to me bc he needs me. it was weird bc he have never said it but i agree. he was talking with me and then his dad came to his room. I didnt hear their conversation but after that he was nervous. I noticed it and i asked whats going on. he told me that nothing happens and he is just overthinking. (i thought that its normal for him.) I told him that his problems are my too and that he can talk with me about all that but he rejected it. I think that he knew about that he gonna join the army but i still dont understand why he promised me future together and now he gonna leave me. maybe it was a lie?
Last updated on:2026-08-17T03:56:11+05:30
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i'd stop waiting by the phone tonight if i were you. i know that's hard when he says he misses you, but i learned the painful way that someone's words mean very little when their actions keep leaving me anxious and confused.
do you think something happened with his dad that night that he still hasn't told you?
ig, maybe his dad isnt proud of him. ofc i dont wanna talk about him bad but his older sis has her own family and job, his older bro has his own business, his other older bro has his own business too, and he was only a student without job amd maybe thats why his dad isnt proud of him.
i've had someone make plans with me, then suddenly change everything, and i spent weeks wondering which version of them was real. you aren't stupid for believing the future he promised you.
I think you should focus on your own life instead of waiting for him right now. The problem isn’t just that he’s joining the army; it’s that he keeps changing what he tells you. First, you were planning a future together, then you said you could wait for him for 1–2 years, and afterward he told you that he might not be able to leave for 10–15 years. On top of that, instead of talking to you about his problems, he shuts you out, then comes back saying that he misses you, only to leave you waiting for two hours.
Don’t exhaust yourself trying to figure out which version of his story is true. If he genuinely wants a future with you, he needs to show it not just through his words, but through consistent actions. Right now, he’s leaving you in uncertainty.
I think you should take a step back and move forward with your own life. If he truly knows what he wants, he should be the one to explain it clearly and stand by his decision. You don’t have to put your life on hold while waiting for him to figure himself out.