I'm still holding the hope that he'll come back, but everytime we had deep conversation at night, he could only tell me that he didn't want to choose this but the damaged has been done and I seriously and genuinely want to make it up all for him, but it was too late to make it up now. He still loves me? I'm not sure, but being friends with him after the breakup feels like being strangers instead, the warmth of our friendship before bring a couple faded and I wish I could get that spark back. I really regret everything and I hate myself every thought of it.
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i spent months torturing myself over every mistake i made with my ex, trying to force us back to who we used to be, but trying to fix everything by yourself while he stays distant will only tear you apart inside.
This helped me a lot, thank you! It is a reality check I need every now and then. 🥹🫶
i would give and trade anything to be friends with my guy but he doesnt want that.. id begged him many times but he said it would just lead to us both being attached and catching feelings again and since hes an avoidant he doesnt want any relationship/ love in his life..
Oh, my. 🥹 I know how much you are in pain to still want him around, but in reality, it would still hurt you despite being in contact, things wouldn't be the same as they used to be. It was hard for me for a few days, always yearning and wanting to understand everything.
It's true, it would lead you both falling in love again but he doesn't want to be upfront with what he wants to feel, and knowing you'd chase would be more painful because you lost yourself to the point someone took your heart away and they'd know how to break it.
I truly hope and wish the best for your healing journey, babe. I know it's not easy and you seem like a loving person, please take care of yourself slowly and gently. You'll eventually get to be the woman you are again without anyone making you lose yourself. ❤️
hating myself was writing down the real reasons we broke up, not just the parts i blamed myself for, because it takes two people to break a relationship. leaning into that friend zone when the warmth is gone just keeps you hooked on breadcrumbs.
Right! He wanted that when we separated, but pretending to be friends hurts a lot when I still see him as someone I love so much. I slowly distance myself, just so I need the chance to live a little without him for a while. 😮💨
he actually tell you what damage couldn't be undone, or is he just using that phrase to shut down the conversation when you try to fix things
Well, he meant it honestly, I don't know what to do to change or make it up for him so that he can trust me again. It was already too late for me to say sorry again.
whatever you may have did and you know that it was wrong, you should take the accountability for it own up to it. and express to him that such a mistake can never happen again. in my opinion i feel everyone deserves a second chance. ronald regan once said “fool me once shame on you” “fool me twice shame on me”. this quote means the first time is on you but the second time if it were to happen would be even worse because this person is giving you shot to make it right but it also has a lot on him. i know the feeling of remaining as friends seems to painful and i hope things work out for you. i hope some of what I said may help you.
Thank you, honestly. I did own up to all of the damages I did to him and the only thing that I could do is give him space and time. I can only respect his decision why it was hurting him a lot, we nearly broke up before the actual breakup, so I'm guessing my second chance is gone. 😅
I tried, but I don't think all of the paragraphs I've said about regretting all those actions is enough for him to heal the part where I hurt him a lot. He still remembers the pain and how much he took a lot of it, I deeply regret everything but it is what it is. I hope time heals us back again, and I hope that there'd be another chance. I don't want him to think, wanting us come back, could only remind him all the damages I've did.