Two months ago he left me saying he didn't love me enough feared commitment and wanted to see other women. Since he can't be alone I know he jumped straight onto dating apps and in my mind he's already moved on with someone else.
Because he doesn't have social media I've caught myself doing crazy detective work—scrolling through local strangers' Instagram stories just trying to catch a glimpse of him in the background with a new girl. Part of me thinks seeing the truth will finally snap me out of missing him but I know it would also break my heart completely.
I'm in so much pain constantly torn between looking for relief and hoping he comes back. How do you stop hunting for painful answers and break this obsessive cycle?
Last updated on:2026-10-23T00:28:12+05:30
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god, hearing her talk to you like that while you were crying makes my blood boil for you. i broke no contact once and poured my heart out to my ex, only for him to give me that exact same ice cold silence and dismissive tone, and it made me feel so SMALL.
sorry for what you are dealing with deep it's hard unfair and somehow you didn't get what you want to feel the relief or get a closure , sometimes we don't have that and the pain will fade away lil by lil stay strong ❤️
how are you holding up today after taking that hit, do you have someone close by who can come sit with you for a bit
Hey, I saw your post and I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this pain. It makes total sense why you’re searching for answers your brain is just trying to find certainty and closure. But hunting for that proof usually just resets the grief clock. Please try to protect your peace and take a break from social media tonight. You don't have to feed the pain with detective work.