He cheated and when I found out he ghosted me.

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Hey fam I am confused and hurt by my boyfriend's actions lately, after endless arguments and bad communication I caught him cheating. He says that I don't give him peace and he doesn't feel respected in the relationship whereas he doesn't show any effort and sees me once a month. How do I deal with all this .

Last updated on:2025-10-05T17:41:56+05:30

Comments (6)

domio
domio 7 mths ago

damn, that’s rough. when he said you don’t give him peace… did that feel like an excuse to you, or do you think he really believes it?

SnapFlex685
SnapFlex685 7 mths ago

it was an excuse, he doesn't wanna take accountability of his behavior

paramount
paramount 7 mths ago

when someone flips it back on you like that, it’s usually them avoiding their own guilt. what helped me was just stepping back and asking, “is this love actually feeding me, or draining me

SnapFlex685
SnapFlex685 7 mths ago

Yeah to me it's draining

poetrygirl
poetrygirl 7 mths ago

i feel this so much. my ex used to tell me i was “too much” while he was barely putting in effort and sneaking around with someone else. the cheating hurt, but what really broke me was realizing i was begging for scraps of lo

SnapFlex685
SnapFlex685 7 mths ago

Yeah that's how I'm feeling now. hope you healed and moved on from that sis.