still can't believe it!
he dumped me in June after 9 years. it came out of nowhere. he said he loves me but he needs to go his own way, to find out who he is and what he wants. we kept in touch during summer, decided to meet each others in September. I first decided not to talk about the break up just to see what will happens. it was as if nothing changed and we were still happy together. after a while, I asked him what's going on and if there is a chance that we can come back together. he didn't want to. so I decided to go No contact. it's like we broke up again... I am mad and sad and it's so hard to accept what I don't understand.
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when you met in september and it felt the same, did he act like nothing had changed too? or did you feel something was off deep down, even before you asked him about getting back together?
first there were some distance, from both sides because we were nervous but very quickly it felt like nothing has changed, it was very harmonious and the complicity was completely intact... thx for your reply
no contact really is brutal at first, but it’s the only thing that ever gave me clarity. i used to reread old texts and overthink every detail until i realized i’d just keep reopening the wound if i didn’t stop. it sucks, but the distance helps your mind catch up to what your heart already knows.
mine ended almost the same way . he said he “needed to find himself,” but still wanted to “stay in touch.” it messed with my head because it felt like we were still together but not. that second goodbye? it hit even harder than the first. i remember feeling like, what was even real?
I am so sorry you had to go through this too. How long has it been and how do you feel now?
if we had kept in touch like he wanted, it was like giving him the control of my life.
I think you know you have to move on with your own life ot doesn't help and it will be hard but you can't wait for someone to make up their mind, best thing js to do whatsbbest for you from now on