we have been on and off since last February. we left each other for like 6 times. i was always the one who initiated contact,but he was always the one who asked to get back together. he was the one who left the past 3 times but this time i am the one leaving. he is so obviously at fualt but i cant keep thinking that maybe i was unreasonable. i don't wanna get back to the hurt again i wanna break this loop yet i wanna text himso badly and i check his social activity every 5 minutes. any tips to how to keep no contact?
Last updated on:2025-11-14T12:55:53+05:30
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what usually triggers you to reach out is it the loneliness or wanting answers? sometimes knowing why helps you catch the pattern before it starts again.
tbh both he is the only person i have even opened up to so when something bad happens the first thing that comes to mind is talking to him i genuinely do miss his presence. but the last time it was more about finding answers cause we didn't exactly get closure
block or mute for a bit. not forever, just long enough to breathe. i used to tell myself, “just one peek,” and suddenly i’d spiral. deleting the app or muting their name helped more than any “self-control” talk ever did. no contact isn’t about punishing them, it’s about protecting your sanity.
i was stuck in that same loop for almost a year the breaking up, the getting back, convincing myself maybe this time it’ll be different. every time i left, i’d still stalk his socials like it was a reflex. it took me realizing that the peace after the pain lasted longer each time i stayed away. it doesn’t stop hurting right away, but it does start to feel freeing.
i hope i can feel that too🤍
i’d say mute or block him and remove the chat if you can. write a letter to him but don’t send it. go for a walk, listen to music, and focus on healing. eventually the urge to text or check him will disappear
out of sight is out of mind.
I'm just 4 days in on no contact and i know...it's way too difficult than it seems
but be strong and take it a day at a time.
you'll be just fine.
prioritize your friends and family and you'll see just how much Love you have out there.
last time i blocked him everywhere and even deleted his chat so he was kinda out of sight but there is a catch he is my neighbour. so i can never go on a walk without thinking that i will bump into him which gets me totally crazy. i have exams and i have to be studying but he seems to be the only thing on my mind
@luna00 ya mine is neighbor too
@DashRay355 its literally a nightmare 😭😍