it still hurts
it's been 88 days since we broke up and 83 days of no contact. I had ups and downs but for the last few days I didn't miss him at all. I didn't even think too much about him. Then I started dreaming of him again and now another friend of mine told me how she and her ex are meeting again and it just reminded me of how much i want to talk to him again. not even in a romantic way, just having him as a person in my life again...
today I spend the whole day crying. no matter how I try to talk to myself about it, It won't stop hurting..
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you say you want him back in your life “as a person,” do you think it’s him specifically, or the comfort and familiarity you lost when he left
both. we both come from the same country so there was a familiarity I don't have with anyone else. but also just him. the way he talks and things. I used to love to talk to him, because he had such different opinions than mine. back then we were just friends so it was exciting for me to see a new view. but as we got together it got annoying because he could only see his side and it got difficult. but if we wouldn't be together that wouldn't be the case and I would be happy to just have my friend back
sometimes the feelings come back just because you finally felt safe enough to feel them
I think I should mention that we both agreed on no contact. it's not the first time that we broke up so I told him to not text me back if he is unsure of what he wants or if he thinks that he can't do what he needs to in order for us to be in each others lifes. and I told him so because it would just hurt. so I wouldn't take the nc as a "he doesn't care about me"
i had weeks where i thought i was finally okay, then a dream or someone else’s reconciliation story sent me right back to day one. the crying out of nowhere made me feel broken, but it was just grief looping
The pain is real and it hurts like hell. You need to move on though. He went nc and hasn't reached out once, thats his answer. He is moving on and you need to as well. Go out and do things you love. Do new things and maybe he'll catch wind of that and will be curious. But dont do anything in hopes of his return, fo it for yourself! once you learn to be alone with yourself you'll move on and it wont hurt so much. good luck
Okay, first of all, I want to say that a person who can stand not texting you or anything for 83 days, that means they just don't care and that person is not for you. Do you think that a person who truly loves you can go 1 day without contacting you and trying to fix the situation off? Think like that. I know that you would text him, but if he hasn't already done so, that already tells you a lot. Life goes on, you will meet new people and this will no longer hurt like it does now, time heals everything. you will learn to live with it. You can do it
the thing is, we had a conversation about not contacting watch other till were ready. I told him that I wouldnt text him since I was always the one reaching out.
@WavyCloud745 It's always an excuse that they are not ready and need time, that they will contact you when they are ready. my boyfriend broke up with me 7 days ago for this reason and he said the same thing that he will call when he is ready. I'm not waiting for him at all and I don't want him to come back, sometimes I miss him, but it doesn't matter, that's normal. And you've been waiting for him for 83 days, why? If it's over, there's a reason why it's over, and it's been a long time, they know to come back not because they love you but in some moments they need someone just to be with them. If it's over let it go and move on. If he comes back, think twice before you answer