my ex and i broke up four months ago and didn’t speak until she suddenly reached out saying she was in town and wanted to meet. i still missed her so we went to dinner and ended up back at her hotel falling into old habits and hooking up.
right before we slept together she told me she’d had a failed hookup a few days earlier and said she was telling me because i was her safe space. it threw me off but i stayed. the next morning i saw marks all over her from that guy and it hit me hard.
a few days later i told her we needed to stop talking because it triggered me but she got defensive and said we weren’t even together. we argued and went no contact again.
then months later she started messaging me nonstop saying something i gave her reminded her of me and she didn’t want things to be bad between us. we met got close again and slept together and i thought maybe we were finding our way back.
the next morning she rushed me out because she had a “closure lunch” with the same guy she said she was done with. later i saw her again and she was falling apart crying checking her phone constantly and even showed me messages where she was begging him to take her back while he kept rejecting her.
i spent the whole day comforting her while she talked about him and that’s when it really hit me. i wasn’t someone she was coming back to i was just someone she leaned on to get through being hurt by someone else. i don’t want her back but the weight of it all still hurts.
Last updated on:2026-04-08T19:35:05+05:30
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you feel like you were hoping those moments together meant something more, or did it only hit you after seeing how she acted about that other guy?
hmm that “safe place” too while they were hurting over someone else. i remember sitting there listening to them talk about another person after we just slept together, that kind of confusion HURTS in a weird way
IMO This is the absolute worst thing that could ever happen to a person. I feel sick. Good gravy, dont ever go back to this person.
If you dont respect yourself, I do. Wipe that phone number from your phone. You dont deserve this, I dont care who you are.
yes it does hurt be strong it will get better