Trying to heal after a breakup with a child involved

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we were together for 8years , but it was more of a codependent relationship I was an alcoholic and I felt like he was the only safe space I had , he always cheated and I always drank but we stayed together and got a baby girl , the break up was my fault , he took custody of my daughter she stays with his mother , it’s been 16months apart , during this time I managed to sober up and I’ve been begging since for forgiveness truthfully I want to go back I don’t know why I just felt like one one else can love me but it’s been so tiring I’ve tried and tried to apologize be good to him show up for my daughter but nothing counts he doesn’t treat me any better , he resents me , blocked me from seeing his watsap statuses but gives me false hope that one day we shall get back together I don’t know how to move on when I still have to talk to him about our daughter and when she is still under his custody

Last updated on:2026-04-09T22:57:03+05:30

Comments (5)

Coldwave
Coldwave 2 days ago

do you feel like he actually wants to rebuild something with you, or is he keeping you close just enough so you don’t fully let go?

hertspar
hertspar 2 days ago

i know this is hard, but i had to stop tying my healing to whether they came back. i focused on showing up for myself

Tracy
Tracy 2 days ago

thank you for this am going to try and show up for myself too

Redalert
Redalert 2 days ago

i’ve been in that loop where love and pain get tied together and you keep going back hoping it’ll feel safe again. getting sober and still not being chosen hurts in a different way

Tracy
Tracy 2 days ago

I know am just praying I over come 🙏