I fell pain, a weird anxiety in my chest, bored , sleepy, can’t go out,
It was a 7 years relationship, he broke my no contact after 17 days, he came and saw me, again he discard from the right after seeing. so just 1 well of arguing then finding out there is a girl that he replaced immediately. Then block each other from every where. now its day 3 of the new no contact and I’m so bad and dealing with all these feelings.
Any ways to feeling better?
Last updated on:2026-04-21T14:28:12+05:30
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mine was 6 year relationship in the 5th year I came to know he has an affair with his ex still. and he wants to continue in future also. that hurts me alot. as mine was this many years am not able to forget him getting pain to leave him at the same time I dont want this relationship. he always taunting me.
oh my god 😭😭😭 how are you coping?
Girl at the end of the day hes weird and like try your best to not think about him like when you do think about what he did and I know its difficult and tbh like crying over it helps so much because you process your feelings faster and hes weird he doesnt deserve to like have any type of access to you ever again like literally if he tries to contact u block him dont talk w him no matter what and also it was a 7 year relationship so it definitely left a mark on him so yeah he’ll probably think about you but his actions really shows what typa man he is and there r a lot of men out there that actually WOULD show loyalty but I wish u the best I feel so bad for u
Were in 10 years relationship with 2 kids and we were 25/26 yrs old now, she just left us immediately with another man, not saying any words she just left. Turns out that when I was building my way up to corporate ladder, she is already in contact with this other guy and when the other guy get back from abroad, she left us and go with him, live with him.
now Im having a hard time explaining everything to our 6 yrs old and 2 yrs old boy. It hurts very much, I was in pain, shock, sadness, anger and the betrayal. Imagine all those you can feel at the same time.
This happened in the 2nd week of March. Now the other went back to abroad and she still live with the other guys condo and whenever she visit the kids, something always happens with us im talking about intimacy however she still goes back to the guys condo every after few days and mind you something always happens with us in those days and even when she cheated with me and the guy is still in his condo, whenever we see each other, we always have sx.
I dont know what to do anymore. I have the kids, I love my kids and I want to cut her off but why I feel relief every time she visits us. “sigh”
it was a 4 year relationship.. he said he is not feeling that Spark now. and broke up. he said our bonding will remain same but I can't move on like this. i want him back. he was my backbone. although i was not physically involved woth him but i dont know why.. i am sooo badly missing him and want him in my life. he was perfect for me.
you shouldn’t keep in touch with him for at least 30 days. I know, I understand what you are going through but just day by day you should keep going. while they open one door like this it becomes harder for us but they do this because they want come and go to our life’s just when they need us. so for yourself you should just be strong and keep going no contact till this addiction goes away and you can think better.
to seeing him again reset everything for you, or was there still a part of you hoping he’d come back before that?
yes, I liked that love bombing version of him. but it was worst this time. I understand he just wanted to devalue me, so I cryed and was disappointed even more than the first time.
when it hit me like this, i stopped trying to feel better fast and just focused on getting through the next hour. small stuff like getting out of bed, eating something, even a short walk helped me not spiral as hard.
i had an ex break no contact, come back just enough to pull me in, then disappear again and it MESSED me up worse than the first breakup. that anxious heavy feeling and the boredom at the same time… it’s brutal
yes, that’s really awful.
now I’m there
any idea how I can pass this hard time?
@Aaaa I totally get it. it's all the feels but feeling nothing at the same time, empty. sometimes it shows up physically. how u were feeling during those 17 days? he just wants to make sure you're still there. It's like a drug and it will never be good, gotta kick the habit for good. for you, do it for you
@Kriss10dawn Thank you for saying this. yes I’ll do it. those 17 days were so hard
but I atarted feeling better at 14 , then he came to check on me. theese narcissists are just monsters.