it was a 4 year relathionship, we are still no contact but I feel like shit everyday. It pains me to think that I cry, can t sleep, can t be at peace while he doesn't give a flying fuck. Any advice???
Last updated on:2026-04-16T01:28:31+05:30
No contact but still hurting: how do i heal?
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do you actually know how he’s doing, or is your mind filling in the blanks with the worst version of it?
redirection. take it as a sign
No contact really sucks. It's lonely and painful, not fun, joyful or connecting. but it's necessary. it's the only path that makes healing possible. but nc alone is not enough. we gotta use the time and distance to really rest, self-regulate, heal and build. in that order. you can do it.
i stopped trying to figure out if he cared or not, because every time i did it made me spiral worse.
Focus on yourself now ❤️ you matter more
i was in a long relationship too and after it ended i couldn’t sleep, couldn’t eat, just stuck in my head while he seemed completely fine. that feeling of “why am i the only one hurting THIS much” really messes with you
pray and work on yourself. time heals all wounds. think of something nice you always wanted to do and just do it🥰
I don’t really have advice, but I just want to say you’re not alone. I’m going through almost the exact same thing right now, and it hurts in a way that’s hard to explain to anyone who hasn’t felt it. The no-contact, the sleepless nights, wondering how they can seem completely fine while you’re struggling it’s exhausting.
I don’t have answers yet, but I understand how you feel. We’ll get through it somehow, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now 🤍