It's been just under a couple of weeks nc, so I'm still lacking closure since we didn't have a proper conversation about boundaries or expectations.
I said he should take all the time he needs, and I don't want to overwhelm him (life is already busy/overwhelming as it is rn)... how much longer should I wait?
Should I leave it to him to break nc? Should I send him a message after a couple more weeks? A month? I don't know how long he needs. Is clarity good for us, or am I being selfish?
Last updated on:2026-04-20T00:12:28+05:30
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you feel like you’re waiting because you still hope he’ll come back, or because you just want answers so your mind can rest?
All I can do right now is hope that he needs space, and he'll come back when he's feeling better. It's not fair for him to leave me in silence but I'm holding out hope that he felt it was necessary for both of us, not that he just wanted to leave without any confrontation.
i waited around for “the right time” too, thinking i was being understanding, and it just kept me stuck in that in-between where nothing moves
i waited around for “the right time” too, thinking i was being understanding, and it just kept me stuck in that in-between where nothing moves
Do NOT break NC. you can resist this urge. Silence wont kill anything.
Most of the time we don't get closure. Sometimes in life, there are simply no answers as much as we want them. Remember reaching out is a 2 way street. He has as much opportunity to reach out as you do, and he hasn't.
Thank you. It's my first time dealing with this... it's hard to wrap my head around why someone would act this way.